Anger is one of the most interesting emotions. It is quite similar to a volcano if we liken it to an element of nature. The emotion of anger if left unworked or mishandled can create the necessary conditions for depression, high accident rates and difficulties in relationships, and can affect physical and mental health in the future.
WHAT IS ANGER?
We all know what it is and we've all experienced it. It is a very normal, ordinary and healthy human feeling. But when it exceeds the limit and becomes destructive it can lead to serious problems both in the workplace and in the social context as well as in personal relationships and in general in the quality of life.
WHAT MAKES A PERSON ANGRY?
There are two basic conditions for a person to experience anger. With himself (e.g. not doing as well in an exam as he expected) or with another person or circumstances. In other words, anger can be caused by internal or external factors. Even emotional difficulties, personal problems, memories or traumatic experiences can trigger feelings of anger.
High and unmet expectations can lead to anger. Do you expect too much from those around you and from yourself for a situation? Consider whether you have excessive demands and explore the factors that will contribute to your happiness.
DO YOU HOLD ANGER MORE THAN NECESSARY?
Some people maintain anger or feelings of intense frustration to punish the other person or situations while not realizing that in doing so they are only punishing and hurting themselves. Solving through proper Communication can bring about desired results. One way is the mature and calm reporting of events when the feelings of anger that follow an incident have passed. In this way, both the person himself and the agent associated with the incident are helped.
Holding on to anger sometimes also shows a person's tendency to victimize himself and look at his life and the world with a negative lens. This phenomenon is a result of the person feeling helpless and holding feelings of resentment for a long time.
DO YOU GET MORE ANGER THAN NORMAL?
If you find that you get angry quite easily and hold onto your anger, then you may have an anger management problem. If you feel that when you get angry you are out of control and in a frightening way, you may need help finding ways to manage your anger.
Some people do get angry more easily than others and to a more intense degree. And the way they express their anger is not always by shouting or throwing objects. They may become socially isolated or prone to illness.
This condition is usually due to a low tolerance for frustration or annoyance. The reason for this is in some cases genetic or psychological. There have been studies that prove that some children show from the time of birth that they are irritable and that they get angry easily. In terms of the psychosocial factor, anger is considered a negative emotion and we are taught not to express it. So we don't learn how to handle it. Also, research has shown that the family environment is an important background. Many people who get angry either easily or excessively come from families that are chaotic, dysfunctional, and lacking in emotional communication skills.
IS EXPRESSING ANGER HEALTHY?
People use various methods to handle feelings of anger. The three basic approaches are expression, suppression of emotions, and calmness. Correct expression of emotions is the healthiest anger management technique. To do this you need to clarify what your needs are and how to fulfill them without hurting other people.
Unexpressed anger can create problems such as pathological anger management or the creation of a cynical and hostile personality. People who put down, ridicule, are cynical about other people and criticize situations have not learned how to express their anger properly and predictably do not have enough constructive relationships.
